Are You Setting Boundaries That Work?
When we’re dealing with our difficult ex or other difficult people in our lives, we’re often advised to “set a boundary” to stop this person’s unwanted behavior.
When you set a boundary from a place of self-care and self-respect you express it in a calm, charge-neutral way. The less “negative” emotion you display the more effective you will be. If you are angry or frustrated, work through these emotions before addressing the individual.
- The Request: Ask him/her to stop doing something that infringes on your physical or emotional space.
- The Consequence: Tell him/her what you will do if they don’t comply with your request. And then you do it.
And then you follow-through. For you. To feel empowered and in charge of yourself.
Again–the ultimate purpose of creating your boundary is not to control his behavior, but to safeguard your mental/physical space. This skill is a key aspect of living in emotional adulthood.
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